It’s often been said that “experience is the best teacher”—and I definitely learned this the hard way several years ago. Living away from my parents for the first time, I had my first taste of freedom during my uni days. I went on a lot of Tinder dates and had many one-night stands. I was the kind of girl who didn’t want the commitment of getting into a serious relationship. Even now I don’t have the desire for it. But back then, it was more intense and I was just all about having fun. Looking back, I definitely went overboard, and the inexperience and immaturity didn’t help.
Everything came crashing down when I learned that I was pregnant. Despite my “wildness,” I actually always took safe sex seriously. I’ve always been very careful to use condoms, but it only took one time... Just one time, I got complacent thinking it’s not gonna happen for just once, and in the heat of the moment made that decision impulsively.
My partner at the time wanted no part of it. I was also fearful for my family’s reaction and still hadn’t finished uni, so I really did not want to and also could not afford to have a baby at that point in my life. Eventually, I had to decide on terminating the pregnancy. I confided in a close friend, who came with me for a consult with a gynaecologist who was also licensed to perform abortions. At the consult, Dr Ben Choey was very kind, gentle as he shared information about the process with me and assured me that everything will be ok.
That moment was also a rude wake-up call for me. Ever since then, I vowed to become more responsible about the things that I do. It’s okay to enjoy the freedom of being a young and single woman, but not without due responsibility to protect oneself at all times.
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